True (trōō)(adj.) : being or reflecting the essential or genuine character of something

"This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man."
Hamlet, William Shakespeare

I am not being true to myself. In fact tonight I am going to a meeting where I fully intend to lie about how I think a marriage should work to the pastor who is presiding over my wedding. Then at my wedding I plan on lying in church about my marital intent. Does this miss I am having second thoughts? No. What is means is the invitations have already gone out and therefore I am going to suck it up, lie in church and willingly say out loud that the relationship I have with Guy is one of submission when in reality, its not. We are equal partners and companions. That will never change. We respect each other as equals not as leader and follower. I don't need someone to lord over me. I need someone who is going to be there to tough out the bad times and enjoy the good times. I don't need guidance, I need love and friendship. The funny thing about all of this is the fact that getting married in the church has essentially induced in me a crisis of beliefs and has pushed me away from the idea of organized religion altogether. If Jesus really felt about women the way the church preaches then I want nothing to do with Christianity. The most amusing (and possibly the only amusing thing) about this who ridiculous and emotionally detrimental situations is that it could have been avoided. Had I stood my ground and opted to have a really small self funded wedding, most likely a barbecue, outside . Instead we are having a huge, let me repeat huge, wedding inside a church (which makes no sense because neither of us are all that religious) followed by a reception at a beach side resort. I sold out for something I never wanted to begin with and it definitely wasn't worth it. Who would have thought following ignoring Hamlet's advice would get me in this much trouble?

Progress (prŏg'rěs')(n.) : a movement toward a goal or to a further or higher stage

100 days from now I will be preparing to officially make the plunge, getting married. In celebration of this milestone I have decided that a progress post is in order.

Us:
Rachel and Guy



Cooper&Scout

Rachel and Guy
Establish 02.16.2005
Engaged 02.17.2007
Adopted Cooper on 06.21.2007
Adopted Scout on 09.22.2008
Making it official 06.13.2009

Wedding Website:
RachelAndGuy.com

The Save the Date:

Thanks Vista Print!

The Church:

Grace Lutheran Chuch

The Reception Venue:

Bahia Resort and Hotel
Mission Bay, San Diego

The Dress:
Link to Picture
(Just in case Guy reads)

The Garter:
Link to Picture
I only purchased the smaller one. It has since been customized.

The Chucks:





These are obviously screen shots of my shoes. I designed them on Converse.com and had them shipped to my friends house because we were having trouble with our mail. If you click on the pictures it will bring up a larger image so you can see the images better. The heel stripe reads 13june2009.

The Rings:

1/2 carat round cut diamonds in a prong settings

14K white gold

The Fake Rings (For Europe):

His&Hers

The Food:
Appetizers:

• Blackened Shrimp with Garlic cream cheese on Asiago Crostini
• Scallop and Tiger Shrimp Brochette
• Crab Cakes with Lime and Ginger
• Artichoke Hearts with Boursin Cheese and Toasted Pecans

Salad:

• Baby Spinach Salad with Sun Dried Cranberries and Almonds in a Raspberry Vinaigrette

Dinner:

• Baked Breast of Chicken with Pomegranate Glaze
• Filet Mignon with Cabernet Sauce
• Whipped Garlic Mashed Potatoes
• Steamed Vegetables

Dessert:

• White Chocolate Vanilla Ice Cream Truffle with Raspberry Sauce

The Cake:
Our cake is still up in the air, sort of. Its ordered but up until 10 days before we can change it however we want. Right now its a three tier white cake with whipped cream frosting. We were planning on adorning it with flowers and a ribbon at the base of each tier but while browsing the internet we found a cake that we both think is amazing. We are going to go to our bakery, a lovely local place called Flour Power and talk to them about how much more it would cost to do our dream cake.
The flavors will remain the same.

• The First Tier: pudding chiffon-yellow cake-with peach slices drifting throughout & peach mousse.
• The Middle Tier: white cake infused with coconut and tied together with a coconut cream.
• The Bottom Tier: The Works- white cake with our light Bavarian cream, one thin layer of raspberry & one thin layer of lemon jam.

• Guy's grooms cake (which will most likely be frozen and kept for the first anniversary) is Chocolate Peanut Butter: Chocolate peanut butter cake with peanut butter folded into the mousse, and a layer of fudge to top it off.

The Flowers:

We are using all white flowers so imagine these in white. Half the centerpieces will be tulips. The other half will be something like this except only the calla lilies which will be bowed out more, much like the tulips.




The Invitations:


Ours are not in these colors. The Pocket is teal, the insert is white and the ribbon is royal blue. Ordered from AlaunByDesign.com . We just finalized the proofs today and hope to get them in about 3 weeks.

The Limo:

Chrysler 300 Stretch Limo
Seats up to 10.

Cake Cutting Set:

Vera Wang "With Love"
My mother is getting them engraved as a gift for us.

Other Stuff that has been completed:

• The DJ
• The Month of Coordinator
• The Officiant
• Passports
• The Photographer
• Rehearsal Dinner
• Website invitation inserts
• Hotel for Rome
• Ring Bowl
• Chair Covers
• Unity Candle
• Linens
• Library Cards
• Library Pockets
• Get rings sized
• Favor Tags
• Pre-marriage Couseling
• Perfume
• Send Invitations
• Registries
• Champagne Flutes
• Make Boarding Appointment for Dogs
• Marriage license
• Menus

What's Left to Do:

• Book Hair and Makeup
• Guestbook
• Escort Cards
• Place Cards
• Table Names
• Table Signs
  
• Signs

-candy bar
-guestbook

• Candy Buffet Stuff (IP)
• OOT Baskets
• Gifts (IP)
  
• Guy's Clothes (IP)
• Figure out the ceremony
• Music for the reception
• Share your photo cards
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• Kids packets (IP)
  
• Programs
• Bouquet charms (IP)
  
• Undergarments
• Dress fittings (IP)
  
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• Card Box (IP)
• Letters for Candy Buffet (IP)
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